Are you and your partner experiencing chronic stress?
Do you sometimes wonder if you are on the same team?
Do you feel more like business partners or ships-in-the-night than the lovers you once were?
Does conflict cloud your feelings of connection?
Are you and/or your partner feeling frustrated? Resentful? Bored? Disengaged? Distracted? Lonely?
The quality of our close relationships makes a big difference in the quality of our everyday lives.
A resilient relationship can provide the love, comfort and support we need to help us express our authentic selves, share our hopes, fears and dreams and manage the inevitable stresses of our lives. This resource is especially important in challenging times and impacts our physical, emotional, family and community health in myriad ways.
When the emotional bond between partners is weakened by chronic conflict, crisis or disconnection, a variety of problems can develop. Getting stuck in reactivity or avoidance such as repetitive arguments, escalating tension, or increasing distance, showing little interest or affection, people often feel very discouraged, frustrated and helpless.
My Approach – Emotionally Focused Therapy
My approach to helping distressed relationships incorporates my many years of experience as a psychotherapist and utilizes the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model of couples therapy developed by Sue Johnson.
Over 20 years of research with couples of different ages, cultures, and histories has shown EFT to be the most effective method of helping couples repair and enhance their relationships.
EFT is a non-blaming approach that:
- Focuses on the basic emotional needs fueling negative interactions
- Helps couples build a more secure, loving bond.
- Clarifies, expresses and responds to each other’s needs and wishes
- Deepens friendships, revitalizes romance and sexuality
- Is supported by over 20 years of research demonstrating effectiveness
- Can be beneficial when prior attempts have been unsatisfactory
In a confidential, non-judgmental exploration, conflicts and crises are understood in relation to the powerful and universal need for secure emotional connection. Destructive patterns can be recognized and understood, long-standing hurts can be addressed and healed, and new intimacy can be created and strengthened.
The Process of Couples Therapy
The complexity of relationship therapy requires extended sessions of 60-70 minutes.
The first session is with partners together and then I meet with each partner individually. Thereafter, we almost always meet together.
To gain traction and momentum for change, it is best to schedule sessions weekly at first, or more frequently if in crisis, perhaps transitioning to bi-weekly sessions. I may suggest homework exercises, YouTube videos to watch, books to read, or podcasts to listen to as a supplement to our work together.
Let’s Chat Further…
The best therapy can transform lives. I am honored to participate in the process of healing and growth, helping you develop a more satisfying and resilient relationship.
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